The other day I saw something on Facebook that really got under my skin. An author I follow and read posted something about people with hearing difficulties, basically blaming them for their own situation.
This hit me hard because I have significant hearing loss, and despite having hearing aids still struggle to hear at times. I inherited my hearing loss from my mom, who’s nearly deaf now. Our situations differ, however, because hearing aids are way out of her budget as an older, retired person on a fixed income.
So there I was, fingers flying over the keyboard, ready to let this person have it. I’ll tell her something about blaming people for their own disabilities!
But then I did something that surprised me. I just stopped. Mid-sentence. What was I doing? Getting into a keyboard war wasn’t going to change her mind or help my mom. It was just me about to dive headfirst into a toxic situation, the kind that never ends well.
So, I did something different: I chose to exercise the power of walking away. And let me tell you, it felt surprisingly good.
The power of walking away isn’t about running from challenging situations or pretending bad relationships don’t exist. It’s about knowing when to save your energy for the stuff that actually matters. It’s realizing you’re in the driver’s seat when it comes to your emotional health and deciding not to let the energy vampires get the best of you.
At the end of the day, keeping our mental health in check and avoiding abusive relationships or exhausting debates is what leads us to a more powerful and abundant life.
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Choosing Our Battles: The Streams of Life
When I was a brand new manager in the corporate world back in the ‘90s, my boss gave me one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received, in business or otherwise. She told me, “Choose your battles wisely.”
These days, rather than thinking of life as a series of “battles,” I like to think of it as a series of streams of varying vibrations. Each day, we stand at the edge of these streams, deciding which ones to jump into. Some are calm and positive, others are like raging rivers of negativity. And it’s totally up to us to choose.
Take the years I spent in my corporate job, for example. There were days when I absolutely dreaded going in to the office. You know the feeling, right? But here’s what I did: I started my morning by watching an episode of Arrested Development during breakfast. A little laughter goes a long way toward giving you that extra boost to face the day. I chose to step into a stream of positivity before diving into the daily grind.
Getting back to that Facebook fiasco. When I stopped typing my well-deserved angry comment and took a breath, I realized something important. I was about to step into a seriously toxic situation. A stream of endless back and forth with someone who probably wouldn’t budge an inch. Was it worth it? Nope. I had the power to choose a different stream.
That’s what the power of walking away is all about. It’s like having a remote control for your life. See a channel full of difficult situations and abusive behavior? Change it. Go find the abundant life channel.
Walking away isn’t about being scared or weak. It’s about being smart. It’s making a conscious decision to step into streams that lift you up, not drag you down. Streams that lead to a powerful life, a more meaningful life. Not ones that make you feel like you’re constantly fighting a current.
3 Signs That Let You Know It’s Time To Walk Away
So how do we know when it’s time to say, “You know what? I’m out.”? It’s not always easy, especially when our emotions are already all fired up. But there are a few signs that scream, “it’s time to hit the road.”
1. When it’s just a one-way street
Ever been in a conversation where it feels like you’re talking to a wall? If you’re dealing with someone who’s just not open to hearing anything different than their own opinion, you’re in a bad situation. No matter how good your points are, they’re just not going to sink in. That’s your cue to walk.
2. When it starts messing with your Zen
We all have our limits, and there’s no shame in that. If a situation starts to really get to you, messing with your mental health or just making you feel crummy, that’s a big, flashing neon sign to step away. Remember, you’re in charge of your own emotional health.
3. When it’s a repeat episode
You know those arguments that just go round and round? The ones that feel like a vicious cycle? Yeah, those. If you find yourself in one of these and it’s just the same old drama in a different wrapper, then it’s definitely time to choose the power of walking away.
Walking away doesn’t mean you’re giving up or losing. It means you’re choosing your battles wisely. It means that you realize that, in some difficult situations, the most powerful move is to not play the game at all. It’s about staying in control, not just reacting to every little thing. By walking away, you’re saying, “I’ve got better things to do, better streams to swim in.”
5 Strategies for Walking Away Gracefully
Deciding to walk away is one thing, but doing it gracefully? That’s where the real art lies. Here’s how you can bow out of challenging situations without losing your cool or your dignity:
1. Take a breather
Before you react, pause. Count to ten, take a deep breath, do whatever it takes to give yourself a moment of calm. It’s amazing how just a little space can change your perspective and help you make a more conscious decision.
2. Remember, not every battle is yours
It’s easy to feel like we need to jump into every argument and defend every point. The truth is that not every comment needs a comeback. Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is nothing at all. That’s the essence of the power of walking away.
3. Focus on your journey
Instead of getting caught up in someone else’s drama or negativity, redirect your energy to your own goals and well-being. Ask yourself, “Is this helping me lead a more powerful life? Is this contributing to my vision of an abundant life?” If the answer is no, then you know it’s time to step away.
4. Use your words wisely
If you do choose to say something, keep it brief and respectful. A simple “I see we have different views on this and I respect your opinion, but I’m going to step out of this conversation now” can be enough. It’s like putting on your emotional armor, acknowledging the situation without letting it pierce you.
5. Shift your focus
Once you decide to walk away, actually do it. Shift your focus to something positive or productive. Go watch some comedy shows or listen to your favorite song. Make a conscious choice to step into a healthier, happier stream.
Walking away with grace isn’t just about leaving a conversation or a bad relationship. It’s a statement about who you are and the kind of life you want to lead. It’s about being in control of your life and not letting toxic situations or abusive behavior dictate your mood or your day.
If you’re feeling inspired to take control of your life and embrace the power of walking away with confidence, I invite you to download my free guide, “The Intuitive Edge: A 7-Day Transformational Journey to Reconnect with Your Inner Wisdom.”
This guide is designed to help you navigate life’s crossroads with confidence, enabling you to choose paths that lead to a more abundant and powerful life. Tap into your inner wisdom, and start your journey towards clarity and purpose today.